Long Distance Relationships; Its thrills

One of the desires of a woman in love is to spend quality time with her man. 

In life there are no guarantees, plans, expectations, humans tend to fail. Circumstances beyond human control make couples stay apart while holding onto the bond they share. 

"Lack of someone's presence will glue them to your heart more(makes you grow fonder of them)" this is what folks who are in long distance relationships are told. Although some/most/all must have being acquainted with the saying that goes like this, "Out of sight, proves out of mind" yet they still cling on Hope. Hopeful for a positive outcome in the long-run.

He has to stay in another city because of family responsibilities Or change location in-search of greener pastures. This he needs to do to stand a chance of a better livelihood for both your sake.
She needs to travel abroad get a Degree/Masters/PHD... A sacrifice she has to make.

"I am a man, i can do this. Not a lot have being able to but i shall", You tell yourself this & keep your fears at bay. You trust your woman. You keep assuring yourself that she's yours & yours alone. You tend to have the urge to monitor her every move, keep tabs, evaluate details..etc but keep your cool and assure yourself that there's nothing to fret about. My dear, it's easier said than done.
As a lady, you are insecure, afraid & experience doubts. Fear of infidelity, losing him to some other woman, but still believing he'll come back to you.
We all have fears we nurse about our partner.

Amid of these, one cannot just say that long distance relationships can't thrive.
As a matter of fact, partners who maintain a healthy long distance relationship stand a better chance of experiencing a more meaningful union than partners who stay together & see each other daily.
They strive to make it work, give in their all to see it blossom & the 'misses' makes the fondness grow stronger.

Skepticism still lingers in thy mind right? Here are a few tips i want to share with you;

Long distance relationships is an assessment in effective communication:
Some partners discover that real communication isn't easy. There are no moments set aside for real heart-to-heart talk & this hampers chances where issues that bothers both individually are to be discussed. Days, weeks, months would pass & nothing changes. 
Long distance partners try harder in communicating affection, intention & intimacy. They engage in more meaningful conversation, share feelings, thoughts & affections more. Thus, they rip better results.
Mutual commitment:
For the relationship to work considering the 'physical barrier', both partner ought to put in maximum & equal commitment if not i advice an early annulment.

Independence:
Living apart from your partner in a way aid to preserve the essence of who you are although you're in a relationship. You tend not to lose the charm that attracted them to you initially. This is a problem faced by geographically close partners. In the state of independence,You make your own rules(social life, choices...) & of course learn to make decisions that will work fine for both parties. 

It's beyond physical:
It isn't all about the Hugs & Kisses, Bad romance rather its more like friendship. In this case of long distance relationship, it proves this point far beyond any doubt. If he/she is worth it, celibate & wait.

Fun & Adventure:
Long distance relationship can be fun & adventurous. In a situation when your partner comes into town, you get so excited that you may want to do a lot of endless amazing things. Tour the city, show them off, visit places you discovered.
Trust me, when partners have the chance of being together maybe once/twice in a month/quarter/year, it turns out to be a mini-holiday rather than just visit...


MY WORD 
If the distance can't #Break the both of you; it will definitely make you.

It's never easy being in a long distance relationship but when you're in it with the right person, the outcome will be over-whelming.
In-case you come across someone in a long distance relationship;
Give him/her a pat on the back. Don't be to quick to write them off. You might be awed how they made it after-all.


By Adinnuh Obinna.